A workshop for couples seeking stronger relationships


October 24 & 25, 2020

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A budgetwise edition of Hold Me Tight!
(only 30 seats available)

A luxury retreat edition of Hold Me Tight!
(only 20 seats available)

“I felt heard, understood and discovered by my partner”

“So helpful to have access to professional therapists to help whenever we got stuck in an exercise”

“The best couples workshop we have ever attended”

“Opened up conversations with my partner we have never had”

looking to enhance your relationship connection?

This retreat will help you strengthen your emotional connection with your partner.

You and your partner will become more empathic, accessible, responsive and engaged with each other.

You will better understand the science of attachment and love



This Hold Me Tight retreat is designed to help couples at any stage of a relationship who wish to enhance their connection.

If you wish to establish a more secure emotional connection with your partner, yet find yourself at an impasse in certain key moments, this is the workshop for you.

People of all backgrounds, ages, faiths and sexual orientations can participate in this workshop.

Hold Me Tight is an educational program, developed by Sue Johnson, who developed the model of couple therapy: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. You will receive the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson in advance of attending a workshop.

All sharing is between you and your spouse with fully trained therapists ready to support you as needed.

We also offer HOLD ME TIGHT in a luxurious, tranquil vineyard setting. Enjoy the option to lavish in natural surroundings during this beautiful couples’ retreat. PLUS: Make it a weekend getaway with the option to book a room right at the cidery.

Build new patterns of trust, love and intimacy


The Hold Me Tight workshop is an experience for couples of bonding through a series of guided and safe conversations designed to help them build new patterns of trust, love and intimacy.

It is based around Seven Transforming Conversations that include:

Recognizing Demon Dialogues
In this first conversation, couples identify cycles that prevent them from hearing one another’s deepest desire for love and connection.

Finding the Raw Spots
Here, each partner learns to look beyond immediate, impulsive reactions, seeking to understand vulnerabilities and fears experienced by their lover.

Revisiting a Rocky Moment
This conversation provides a platform for de-escalating conflict and repairing rifts in a relationship and building emotional safety.

Hold Me Tight
The heart of the workshop experience: this conversation moves partners into being more accessible, emotionally responsive, and deeply engaged with each other.

Forgiving Injuries
Injuries may be forgiven but they never disappear. Instead, they need to become integrated into couples’ conversations as demonstrations of renewal and connection. Knowing how to find and offer forgiveness empowers couples to strengthen their bond.

Bonding Through Sex and Touch
Here, couples find how emotional connection creates great sex, and good sex creates deeper emotional connection.

Keeping Your Love Alive
This last conversation is built on the understanding that love is a continual process of losing and finding emotional connection; it asks couples to be deliberate and mindful about maintaining connection.


Henry Sawatzky

MA; RCC and Director
Phone: 250-878-6943
Email: henry.sawatzky@relationshipwellnesscentre.com

Your Relationship Therapist

Henry provides couples therapy in Kelowna and has been working with Marriages & Families since 1991. This includes 10 years as a foster parent, helping couples prepare for and enrich their family experience, and 25 years of private practice as a couples & family therapist. His wealth of experience and professionalism provide you and your family with the care and direction you need in order to achieve your relationship goals.

Henry is certified as a couples therapist by the Gottman Institute, and by the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. The knowledge embodied in these two empirically validated and proven methods of couples therapy provides Henry with the strategies needed to help you shape your relationship into a source of strength and safe harbour that your relationship and family needs in order to thrive.

While taken training in the Gottman Method of couples therapy and have become a Certified Gottman Therapist, Henry is completely independent in providing clinical services and fully responsible for those services. The Gottman Institute or its agents have no responsibility for the services you receive.

Therapy focuses on three significant change points

Couples most often enter therapy stuck in either a cycle of escalation that tears at their bonds of love, or emotionally distant and living unsatisfied and parallel lives. The first goal of therapy seeks to have them see and understand their cycle with the goal of being able to step out of it, thereby creating calm, and space for a sense of togetherness.

From there, therapy seeks to support an emotionally distant or unavailable partner in being present in the relationship. Learning to ask for what he or she needs and to provide meaningful love and support to their partner. Finally, a partner stuck in a cycle of criticism and reactive anger learns to talk about their fear and loneliness, inviting their partner to love and care for them.

The Workshop Venue

UBCO Lecture Theatre Room # 305

October 24th & 25th 2020*


 UBCO Lecture Theatre Room # 305, Kelowna, BC

 * Dates are pending final confirmation from UBCO. The university doesn’t foresee any problems, but the definite confirmation is only available in May, once the class schedule is final.

Reduce your conflict and increase your sense of connection.

Based on the book

Hold Me Tight:

Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

By: Dr. Sue Johnson www.holdmetight.com


What’s included:

  • Curriculum Binder
  • Refreshments
  • Parking pass
  • GST

Cancellation Policy:
Fees are refundable until September 11th 2020 less a $50.00 administration fee.
Not refundable after September 11th 2020



    Workshop Registration Fees
    (Per Couple)

    • $315 Earlybird Pricing. Register until Sept 11th, 2020
    • $400 Regular Price. Register after Sept 11th, 2020
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We also offer HOLD ME TIGHT in a luxurious, tranquil vineyard setting. Enjoy the option to lavish in natural surroundings during this beautiful couples’ retreat. PLUS: Make it a weekend getaway with the option to book a room right at the cidery.

Couples Workshop