Is the HOLD ME TIGHT RETREAT for you?

This Hold Me Tight retreat is designed to help couples at any stage of a relationship who wish to enhance their connection.

If you wish to establish a more secure emotional connection with your partner, yet find yourself at an impasse in certain key moments, this is the workshop for you.

People of all backgrounds, ages, faiths and sexual orientations can participate in this workshop.

Hold Me Tight is an educational program, developed by Sue Johnson, who developed the model of couple therapy: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. You will receive the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson in advance of attending a workshop.

Your Relationship Therapist

Henry provides couples therapy in Kelowna and has been working with Marriages & Families since 1991. This includes 10 years as a foster parent, helping couples prepare for and enrich their family experience, and 25 years of private practice as a couples & family therapist. His wealth of experience and professionalism provide you and your family with the care and direction you need in order to achieve your relationship goals.

Henry is certified as a couples therapist by the Gottman Institute, and by the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. The knowledge embodied in these two empirically validated and proven methods of couples therapy provides Henry with the strategies needed to help you shape your relationship into a source of strength and safe harbour that your relationship and family needs in order to thrive.

While taken training in the Gottman Method of couples therapy and have become a Certified Gottman Therapist, Henry is completely independent in providing clinical services and fully responsible for those services. The Gottman Institute or its agents have no responsibility for the services you receive.

Therapy focuses on three significant change points

Couples most often enter therapy stuck in either a cycle of escalation that tears at their bonds of love, or emotionally distant and living unsatisfied and parallel lives. The first goal of therapy seeks to have them see and understand their cycle with the goal of being able to step out of it, thereby creating calm, and space for a sense of togetherness.

From there, therapy seeks to support an emotionally distant or unavailable partner in being present in the relationship. Learning to ask for what he or she needs and to provide meaningful love and support to their partner. Finally, a partner stuck in a cycle of criticism and reactive anger learns to talk about their fear and loneliness, inviting their partner to love and care for them.