Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

Strengths of Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients.
  • EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research.
  • EFT provides couple’s therapists with a clear roadmap to de-escalation, engagement and softening in communication.

It’s been difficult for clinical psychology to get couples therapy right. But after many decades of therapists and couples left floundering with methodologies that are less than effective, Emotionally Focused Therapy offers couples a nurturing and empirically validated method of reshaping their bond and rewriting their story of love in a way that draws them close and holds them tight.

EFT is a methodical approach to couples therapy formulated in the 1980’s  at  the University of British Columbia, and is now widely used and accepted around the world and the premier modality for relationships in distress. It is based on the science of adult attachment and bonding and expands our understanding about how a couple’s love deteriorates, and how to revive it.

A growing body of research demonstrating the effectiveness of EFT now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements.

An Example of the Change Process

A couple suffering from repeated and frequent episodes of escalated conflict learns to see their cycle of pursue-withdraw, or attack-defend as the enemy as apposed to feeling villainized by each other. A withdrawn, or emotionally unavailable partner takes vulnerability risks, asking for what he or she needs and learns to offer emotional support. Then, a critical, frustrated and often lonely partner learns to safely trust his/her now engaged and emotionally available partners in a softened and approachable manner. Here, bonding and trust are free to grow and create.

Find out how Accessible, Responsive and Engaged you & your partner are with each other.

  • From your viewpoint, is your partner accessible to you?

    1= Infrequently. 2= Some of the time. 3= Most often
  • From your viewpoint, is your partner responsive to you?

    1= Infrequently. 2= Some of the time. 3= Most often
  • Are you positively emotionally engaged with each other?

    1= Infrequently. 2= Some of the time. 3= Most often

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