Relationship Counselling for Conflict: Preface

Are you considering relationship counselling? The honeymoon is over and the sparkle of that perfectly choreographed wedding ceremony seems like a distant memory. It’s not that you don’t love each other any more, and in so many ways the future seems hopeful, but like a...

Emotionally Focused Therapy: Soften Conflict

Emotionally Focused Therapy. It’s valuable. Think about the last conflict you had with your partner. I know, it’s not the most pleasant of topics, but like it or not it’s something we all have to face from time to time. If I asked “on a timeline, what is the...

Appreciation: Family Therapy tips from Henry Sawatsky

Family therapy tip: Show appreciation when it’s due. Wednesday morning I woke up to 6 inches of snow on my driveway. This was not in the forecast! So, instead of going to the gym I was shoveling it clear, only to have it completely covered in white 15 minutes...

Rekindling Romance

Christmas and Valentines are now well in the rear view mirror. But I am still a little astonished at having listened to merchants present themselves as relationship experts. If you present just the right diamond from just the right jeweler you are sure to get “that...

Dreams

Several years ago we decided to re-do our flooring. Not an unusual undertaking but somewhat daunting none-the-less. If you’ve ever done it before you know what I am saying. While discussing laminate colours with the sales clerk he gave me a quizzical look and...

Do we need Counselling?

Barry & Nicole weren’t miserable. They had never talked about divorce. There had not been an affair. Never a hint of violence. But there seemed to be a growing distance between them. They just seemed to get through disagreements without ever really reaching...

Staying In Love

We’ve all seen them. The love sick couple completely enthralled with each other. They just can’t stop being together, touching each other or expressing their undying affection.  Somehow you just know they’ve been together for less that 3 months. A part of you...

The Gottman Method

I am pleased to announce that as of May of this year I have successfully completed my certification as a recognized Gottman Therapist. I am the sixth Certified Gottman Therapist in Canada and the first in the Southern Interior. Now, you may be asking yourself, “What...

Getting Married

Everyone loves of good wedding. All the pomp and ceremony, the anticipation and grandeur. But mostly I think it’s about the joy ignited by the hope of a glorious future. Somehow, in the midst of unbridled celebration, dreadful marital statistics are forgotten, and a...

Perspective: What’s Your Perspective?

Earlier this week I was enjoying a cyber chat with my sister, who lives out of province. Our conversation wandered from work, to the economy, to politics. Finally we landed on relationships (It’s a bit of an occupational hazard for me). She asked “what’s the one thing...
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